Mike reached across the table to examine mine."You were born in 1966? That's so weird."The word rattled around in my head, even after he changed the subject to his upcoming marathon training. The banter that had come so easily seemed stilted in the bar. I said yes, but as soon as I got to the meet-up spot, I wanted to drive away. It wasn't what they were wearing—I was wearing an athletic tank top and hiking pants, same as the other women—but they all seemed so carefree.
I didn't know them personally, but I was pretty sure none of them had been divorced—which I had by time I was their age.
These are actual quotes from people when I tell them my boyfriend is almost 14 years younger than I am.
In this generation of Demi and Ashton and Samantha and Smith, why is there still a stigma about an older woman who canoodles with a younger man?
I tried to have sex a few times and I did, although unsatisfying.
The thing is, I’ve never really had a “type” and rarely have rules for the kind of guys I go out with.
But see, for men who covet younger women, it’s not whether you look good for your age – it’s what age you really are. If she wants to date a guy who is 6’2”, makes 0,000 , likes skiing, is within ten miles of her house and five years of her age, you know what? All she has to do is go on Match.com, and wade through a few thousand applicants. There are many other things that are attractive about older men. They can afford nicer restaurants and vacations and have cultivated greater tastes in the arts.
They’re more experienced, more chivalrous, and more likely to want to settle down than a twentysomething party boy.
Still, when Mike and I went out for drinks, I barely thought about our age gap until our server asked for our IDs. A week later, he invited me to join him and his friends for a hike, followed by a party.
Okay, Evan, I agree mostly with your opinion on younger men/older women. I mean, I can see why an older man would want to date a younger woman – physically that is, but why would a 28-year-old woman want to date a man 45 or more? I can totally understand why older men go for younger women.
There’s no denying that they’re, for the most part, in better shape, with better skin, and less baggage from broken relationships.
It’s a lot easier for a man to take out a carefree, responsibility free, baggage free, wrinkle free 28-year-old, which is why so many men try to go in that direction. Men want much younger women, but rarely do much younger women want older men.
Put another way, if a woman has an array of other quality options closer to her age range, what incentives would she have to date a man who is SEVENTEEN YEARS OLDER? Before any 40 people get all hot and bothered about this – I am not judging. I do think people improve with age (my wife is nodding). She doesn’t need a guy who will be taking Viagra when she’s sexually peaking at 43..